Do you feel that one of your friends is always talking behind your back and keeps competing with you? You may be in a toxic friendship and you may not know it.
Friends are one of the most important and indispensable parts of our lives. What would we do without them? Be it that late-night movie plan or helping you get permission for a night out, friends play a special role in our lives. But not always do we carry forward every person we befriend. With friendship comes expectations and many times ,friendships fall apart. Most of us want to see the good and ignore the bad, even in our friendships. But just like relationships, friendships, too, can get toxic.
And now, if you are ordering how will you decipher if a friendship is toxic, here is your answer. Read these signs of a toxic friendship and decide for yourself.
1. He/she keeps demeaning you
Do you have a friend who keeps putting you down in front of people? Well, then maybe it's time to give yourself a reality check. Instead of bringing in happiness, toxic friendships make you feel small and you start self-doubting. So, if you feel that a particular friend is trying to pick on you or demean you in front of others, think about the friendship again or approach your friend and confront him/her.
2. Drama, drama and more drama
Do you feel like you are in the midst of a Bollywood plot with one of your friends because of the constant drama he/she brings along? Well, this is a sign of toxicity and is an attention-seeking behaviour. If your friend is constantly inviting drama and trouble, this is a huge red flag.
3. Self-centred
Do you think one of your friends is always demanding attention and makes everything about them, even when it is not? Want to check if this is true or not? Try making a conversation with them that is about you or someone else and if they steer it back towards them, voila, you have your answers!
4. Competition
There are some people who will compete with you in almost anything and everything. Be it that exam at college or your salary, some people will compete with you and then demean you, and these are exactly the kinds of friends that we call toxic. They do not usually like the idea of you doing something bigger or better thann them, and when you do , they try to replicate.
5. Trust issues
Trust is the base of every relationship, and this stands true even for non-romantic friendships. Trust makes the relationship blossom and without it, there is no point of carrying forward the friendship. So, if you are always wondering if you can trust one particular friend, chances are high that you do not!
Is there any friend in your friend list whom you simply can't bear when you meet them and secretly wish for them to leave? Well, that's a big sign of toxicity and no one should be a part of this cycle. You usually try cancelling plans with them and make the silliest of excuses to avoid them.
7. Your other friends are always complaining
They say that sometimes we are blinded by others' fault, but they are easily visible to the people around you. So, if a friend of yours is pointing out a varied behaviour of another friend, notice and work on it!
8. They are constantly talking behind your back
Do you get to know of weird and untrue experiences about yourselves because a friend spread them? Well, it is time to pull up the socks and take notice.
While “there's a spectrum of talking about people behind their back,” according to Bodior, if your friendship is starting to resemble an episode of the Real Housewives, it’s probably toxic.
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