Are you always the one paying after an extravagant meal? Is your partner dependent on your finances and makes you pay for everything? Perhaps you are in a relationship with a gold digger.
Ever been with someone who cannot see beyond themselves but wants your financial aid for survival? In fact, have you ever been in a relationship where you're paying for your partner's expenses at all times? So much that there is no track of debt maintained because you're in love? Well, chances are you're probably in a relationship with a gold digger. They will drag you to the most expensive places, have a supremely lavish lifestyle and would make sure that you're the one paying for everything. But how do you know if you are being used and are with a gold digger? Here are some signs that will help you realise the same!
They always pick the fanciest place to dine
The first dates are all about making an impression. However, that doesn't mean you head to the Taj or SoHo House. Go someplace nice and balanced which doesn't burn a hole in your rich pockets. However, when it comes to dating a gold digger, you will notice that the person wants you to take them to a rich and fancy place on the first date. Moreover, they wouldn't shy away from ordering the most expensive things on the list, sipping down 60-year-old wine bottles and rounding up with a dessert. Of course, the big red flag would be if they make you pay for the whole thing.
They talk too much about their extravagant lifestyle
During your date with the individual, if you notice that they talk too much about their extravagant lifestyle then you're sitting next to a gold digger. One of the main reasons why they keep fixating on their lavish lifestyle is for you to know that they would be expecting you to match up to it. It also a means for them to find out if you even know about these places as that would give them an idea of where you belong and whether you can eventually take them to these places. That's a sign of a gold digger and not the kind you need in your life.
They do not pay for anything
Have you ever been on a date where you paid for it instead of splitting the bill? Or has it happened recurrently with the same person? If the idea of splitting the bill doesn't exist, it simply means that the person is too comfortable not paying their share and expects you to eventually take care of all their expenses. This is just a start and soon you will see them ask you to cover for their other expenses too. Take up the subject if you notice that they are not chipping in their share of the money instead of encouraging their behaviour.
They are curious about your income
"Where do you work?" is a very normal question to ask out of curiosity. But "what's your position in the company?" is an inquiry at your salary status. Often individuals who are rich try to flaunt the same. You might need to hold that thought and first see if the person you're interested in wants you for you or for your money. If the person is prodding too much on how much money you make, you need to get out of the space as fast as you can. Or you will end up in a place where the person is staying with you for your money.
They are always struggling financially
Within the first few dates, as a means to test the waters, a gold digger might incidentally experience a financial crisis for which they would need your help. They might need money with respect to some of the conundrums faced and ask you for it. You will get a panic call maybe in the middle of the day to let you know that they need you right away along with your wallet. They need to be certain if you can handle their "petty" finances to see if you might eventually get them the big stuff. You will see them waltz around the Gucci showrooms and pick the fanciest and expensive outfit.
They feel entitled and are not grateful
You will notice that they are not the most mannered person in the room. They do not show gratitude and take everything and everyone for granted. In fact, you will see how they behave a certain way around people who they deem inferior to them. The bad behaviour is easy to spot and shows a side that you might not like. They will never say the words "Please" or "Thank you" to express gratitude. It is bad manners and a big red flag that they are only looking for someone with money.
They are not career-oriented and act immature
One of the biggest things to notice about gold diggers is their lack of ambition and career goals. When you do go out on a date, try to ask them about their career goals and what they wish to do in the future. In fact, ask them what they are currently doing and where they see themselves in the next five years. Gold diggers would often have the vaguest answers to give as they do not see a career as a big deal. All they would want is to be taken care of instead of doing things on their own. It is one of the biggest red flags you can spot that the person is a gold digger. Simultaneously, if they are gold diggers, they would act immature. Taking selfies on the first date to show the fancy food you shared and talk in one of those childish manners.
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